So, it was Halloween night and my daughter, who is now thirteen years old, still wanted to go out trick or treating. I must admit that I am at this point less than enthusiastic. But, she really wanted to go. I told her that she would have to create her own costume and make the arrangements for going out.
She called her friends and arranged for one of the mothers to drive her home afterwards. I am always amazed by her resourcefulness. For the costume she has a knitted raccoon hat that she loves to wear. With the hat perched neatly on her head she painted her face with black and white paint, and went out as a raccoon. Very cute!
What I am learning from being a parent is that it isn't necessary that I solve all of her problems. Given the opportunity to be creative we can all be quite inventive and resourceful. I'm learning to let go, and let her figure things out for herself. In the process I free myself up to do more of the things that I really want to do.